Life is full of changes, moving from wearing diapers to being potty trained to moving to a higher grade every year. All these changes and many more which we face in life we adapt to them and adjust accordingly. but one of the major changes in a girl's life is getting married and in today's career oriented world this aspect of life and this change is either forgotten or taken very lightly , people thinking " the girl will learn" and so most of the girls face this major change of their life unprepared and not knowing what they will be facing. true they know the good part but in all the romantic stuff, the responsibility part is forgotten and that's what usually goes wrong because getting married does not mean just marrying one guy it means becoming part of a family and taking care of your husband and his family.
Allah(swt) created Eve(a.s) to accompany Adam(a.s) and help him in every aspect of life so similarly all women are made to be with their mate. ( Wisdom point: first find you soul then find your soul mate.)
Allah(swt) tells us in the Quran
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا
" Mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allâh through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)". Surely, Allâh is Ever an All¬Watcher over you." (surah an-nisa:1)
So basically one of the major duties of a woman after worshipping Allah(swt) is to be a good wife & be such that the husband even by looking at his wife finds peace in his heart and is glad he married her.
Usually girls today (us) look at books such as mills & boons, historical romances etc to understand what love and marriage is & that is what makes ones marriage life a disaster.its these dumb fantasies & love at first sight theories and many other similar thing which takes one away from reality and then when reality strikes its hard for her to adjust and keep up with them at times breaking underpressure or thinking bad about her husband and his family where as its not their fault that they aren't like the fairy tale fantasies she had expected they are real people living in the real world..
so the 1st step for a girl is prepare herself for this major change & one of the best ways in doing so is reading about real life women who were ideal wives like H.z Khadija (rta) & the other Ummaha-tul-momineen. Making them your role models & also educating yourself in the worldly matters and also our wonderfull religion Islam cause with these and our strongest weapon: Dua, Inshallah all of us can become the best wives for our husbands.
A clue to what my next post will be about: ( like i said i want this blog to be as interactive as we can make it ) so guess and also give ideas about what other issues you want us to discuss and with the help of Quran & hadith together lets solve them (inshallah).
CLUE
How do you take care/safeguard/treat/keep your wedding dress/favourite dress??
Jazakallah
M*M
